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There’s a saying that everything you need in life is available to you right now in your current environment. However, if you don’t look at it from the right perspective or the right mindset, you’ll miss it.

“Preoccupied with a single leaf, you won’t see the tree. Preoccupied with a single tree, you’ll miss the entire forest.”

This quote from Takuan Soho (a major figure in the Rinzai school of Zen Buddhism) is what I believe to be a perfect example of mindfulness. Mindfulness, as I currently understand it, is the ability to see better or from a wider perspective…


You’re probably using them too and it’s not the n-word.

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Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past couple months, I’m assuming you’re aware of the protests regarding the injustices black (and indigenous) people are still facing today, costing them their lives and traumatizing their family, close friends and communities for several generations to come.

This is not new. It’s been happening over and over for centuries. Many artists talked about it before and are still doing their best to raise awareness about it. To name a few :

  • Lil Baby said it with “The Bigger Picture” in 2020
  • Childish Gambino said it with “This is America” in…

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Why do you want to be in a relationship?

One of the questions we like to ask our SLOVVE members is “Why do you want to be in a relationship?” The most popular answer has essentially been “To not be alone”. Based on that, you would think that more people, especially during the current pandemic, would feel the same. But recent studies show that the rate of breakups and divorces has significantly increased in the past couple months all over the world due to the pandemic. And it is even expected to continue increasing post lockdown.

  • “Diana Isaac, a partner at the family law firm Shulman & Partners LLP…

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In my previous article, I introduced the idea of treating your relationship like a business in order to help you experience a more fulfilling one. In part two, I’d like to dive a little deeper into how this approach can help it flourish.

As mentioned before, there are three main principles working in the business world, that can also work in your relationship :

  1. Detach yourself from it
  2. Nurture it
  3. Know its purpose.

Keep in mind that the goal of this unconventional approach is to become more aware of your relationship, giving it the proper time and attention it needs…


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Where did you learn how to be in a fulfilling relationship? Who taught you? Most likely you learn a little about what to do (and a lot about what not to do) from your parents and other couples in your environment. Maybe you even picked up some ideas from romance novels, TV shows and movies. Still, for a large majority of us, the lessons were not effective, sufficient or useful in most real life situations. Because of that, many people in and out of relationships suffer.

It may sound a little controversial at first, but the reason may be because…


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How it all started

A little over a year ago, while walking my dog in the city, I ran into Cassie, the younger sister of a high school friend, from back when we all lived in Montreal. We made plans to catch up over coffee. At the time she was taking a break from a 2-year relationship and I was fresh out of an 18-year relationship. Naturally, we started talking about current dating trends and the world of online dating.

From her experienced, having tried various dating apps, she felt that they were all fundamentally flawed for many reasons, some of which were discussed…


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Besides the abundance of fake profiles (reason 1) and superficial connections (reason 2), the third reason why you may never find a fulfilling relationship using a dating app is that many users simply aren’t looking to be in a relationship. Although some are looking for love, others are looking for validation or excitement, and some even forgot why they downloaded dating apps in the first place.

Tell me I’m beautiful

One of the main complaints a friend of mine had about dating apps in general is that many apps are “full of ego inflation and shallow people.” He noticed that many women didn’t…


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Last week I covered the first reason why dating apps might not be your best option to find a suitable long-term partner. This week, I’d like to share the second reason : The process for selecting a partner is unrealistic.

As much as there are many alternative apps to counter the conspicuous judgemental aspect of the swipe culture from apps like Tinder, selecting a potential mate still mostly comes down to visual attraction as opposed to compatibility.

It doesn’t matter how elaborate someone’s bio is, most users do not spend a long time on other people’s profiles. According to a…


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Does this sound familiar to you?

You’re new to the dating apps scene or have been there long enough to the point of experiencing online dating fatigue. You may have downloaded some of the popular dating apps, but can’t be bothered spending hours swiping through hundreds of profiles, looking for the proverbial needle in a haystack. For every hundred or so profiles, maybe one catches your interest. And IF that person is a match, there is still a chance he or she won’t even bother to respond.

I was recently tagged on a Facebook post from someone asking single people…


Listen with your whole body, not just your ears.

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Have you ever been in a situation where a friend is upset at you, and you just don’t understand why? They end up recalling stories that portray you as the culprit and them as the victim, but your version of the same story is completely different. The argument then becomes an exercise in finding holes in each other’s stories. In the end, both sides end up unhappy, still thinking the other one has wronged them. …

MJ ILLUSTRATES

Toronto-based artist. Professional dreamer. www.mariejudith.com

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